10 Facts About The Japanese Dating Culture You Must Know

Do you know how to spot a liar?

Ask a man if he likes Japanese women and if his answer is no, you know that he’s not telling you the truth. Japanese women are the fantasy of every man and the idea of dating them is enticing, exciting, and thrilling.

The truth, however, is that it can be tricky and depressing to date in Japan, at least if you don’t know anything about the dating culture. I mean, let’s face it. You can’t just travel to Japan and expect to meet the love of your life without knowing anything about what Japanese girls want, how they want to be approached, and what they expect from a guy.

Being an expert in the dating culture is vital and after you’ve read this article, you’ll know more about the Japanese dating culture than 99% of men.

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1. Japanese women are lonely

Isn’t that weird?

Men all over the world dream of meeting and dating Japanese women and now I’m telling you that they are lonely. You might think that I’m crazy. And that’s okay because I also didn’t believe it until I saw it with my own eyes.

Most Japanese women are terribly lonely because the Japanese men are not giving them the attention, love, and appreciation that they need and deserve. While the women are looking for foreign men on online dating sites, the guys are busy playing video games, talking to their virtual girlfriends and working themselves to an early grave.

2. Kinky is the new normal in Japan

Even though Japan is a very traditional country, sex is not as suppressed as in other Asian cultures. While a traditional Thai woman would never walk around without short pants under her skirt, Japanese women walk around with skirts that are so short that they don’t even deserve to be called skirts.

The porn industry is huge in Japan and when you walk through Tokyo you will see hundreds of billboards with manga cartoons that show young girls in school girl uniforms. In case you still believe that every Asian country is prudish, you have never been to Japan.

 3. Japanese women embrace their femininity

I just told you that Japanese women love to walk around in short skirts, but that’s by far not the only way in which they express their femininity. They do so much more.

It’s not uncommon that Japanese women talk in a high pitched voice because they want to appear cute. It’s also not uncommon that they act cute, smile, and giggle whenever a foreign man like you is talking to them.

While the women in the West are busy acting as manly as possible in order to achieve success, the women in Japan are busy being as feminine as women can possibly be.

 4. Gaijin hunters can become dangerous

Have you ever heard of Gaijin hunters?

These are the Japanese girls that hunt foreign men as if they were trophies. I know, it sounds enticing to run into such a girl. All you have to do is to be a foreigner and she’ll instantly like you. It sounds like a dream come true.

However, too much of heaven can be dangerous, especially when you fall in love with a Gaijin hunter. She loves the idea of being together with a foreigner, but she doesn’t love you. She loves the color of your skin, but she doesn’t love your heart.

If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

5. The working culture makes long dates impossible

Let’s assume that you have met a beautiful Japanese girl who is not a gaijin hunter and who loves you for who you are. You probably want to spend as much time as possible with her. There’s just one problem and it’s called the Japanese working culture.

While people all over Europe complain about 40-hour work weeks, the people in Japan would be happy if they only had to work for 40 hours a week. 70 hours are normal. Not seeing your partner for days, sometimes weeks, is normal.

Don’t expect your Japanese girlfriend to have time whenever you call her and don’t get jealous when she says that she’s busy. She’s telling the truth.

 6. Just because she’s acting naïve doesn’t mean that it’s true

I have talked to a lot of guys about Japanese women and most of them think that Japanese women are innocent and naïve. That’s what they think. But that’s not entirely true.

Yes, they act innocent and naïve but that doesn’t mean that they really are innocent and naïve. One aspect of the Japanese dating culture is that the men are attracted to cute women who act silly, naïve, and a little bit stupid. She will act the same way when she’s with you because she doesn’t know that you are attracted to intelligent women who have their own opinion.  

 dating japanese girls7. Sharing your feelings is not common in Japan

Don’t be surprised when you tell your Japanese girlfriend that you love her and she just looks at you with big eyes without saying a single word. That doesn’t have to be a bad sign. She might love you, but she can’t express her feelings because she has never done it before.

Expressing your feelings is something that you typical don’t do in Japan. Her parents never said “I love you” to each other. It would be naïve to expect that she can suddenly express her feelings, just because she’s with you. Give her the time she needs.

8. Most married couples don’t experience intimacy

Unfortunately, this is a fact. Most Japanese couples don’t experience any intimacy. But that doesn’t mean that you have to experience the same when you decide to marry a Japanese woman. All you have to do is to be different and you will have a different and better relationship.

Don’t work so much that even a kiss at the evening would be too exhausting. Don’t stop expressing your feelings, just because it’s normal in the Japanese culture. And please don’t ignore your girlfriend or wife in the same way as the local men ignore their girlfriends and wives. 

9. Your work ethic is important

Didn’t I just tell you that you shouldn’t work yourself to death?

Yes, that’s true. But that doesn’t mean that you can spend your days on the couch watching Netflix. That’s not how it works. Japanese women respect hard-working men because they have been born and raised with the belief that hard work is important.

She wants a man who doesn’t work himself to death, but she also wants a man who values hard work and who wants to achieve some success in life.

 10. She wants to be more than your fantasy

This is very important, if not the most important thing when it comes to dating Japanese women. She wants to be your girlfriend, your lover, and your wife but she doesn’t want to be your fantasy and your fetish.

Don’t forget that Japanese women are normal women who have fears, desires, and anxieties. They are real human beings and not the main characters of a manga cartoon. Treat her with love and respect and she will treat you in the same way.

Peter Wang

Hey! I’m Peter Wang, the founder of LovelyPandas. My dream is for a world full of love and romance. I seek to help people find love and build amazing relationships. You can find useful online dating tips and honest dating site reviews here. Feel free to write to us if you have any comments.

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